Toby

A Room of One's Own
I’m a grounded, thoughtful person who values a home that feels steady and respectful. I work in youth support and education, so I’m used to listening well, communicating clearly, and being mindful of how shared spaces affect people.

I’m not a party-house person — home is somewhere I like to decompress, cook, read, study philosophy and education, and reset. I’m friendly and easy to chat with, but I also really respect personal space and independence. Think: occasional good conversations, not forced socialising. No forced philosophical discussions

I’m clean without being obsessive, reliable with bills, and big on doing my share without drama. I tend to keep common areas tidy and believe small things (like not leaving dishes “for later”) make a big difference in shared living.

Style-wise I’m pretty understated — lots of denim, boots, and practical layers — and that probably reflects how I live too: low-key, functional, and intentional.

What I’m looking for

A place that feels like a home rather than a crash pad. Ideally:

Calm, respectful flatmates

Clear communication and shared expectations

A tidy, looked-after space

People who are comfortable doing their own thing

I’m flexible about age and background — I care more about how people live than who they are on paper.

House vibes that work for me

Shared responsibility, no passive-aggressive notes

Quiet nights during the week

Mutual respect for routines, sleep, and downtime

A place you’re happy to come back to at the end of the day

If this sounds like a good fit, I’d be keen to chat and see if the vibes line up.