$370/week•51 year old woman
I am a 51-year-old woman who recently separated from my partner of ten years. After thirty years of living in inner-city Sydney, I am certainly looking for a change, a fresh start, some different energy, a different setting, new people, you name it. It's just time to move on and on to the next chapter.
I am interested in a shared house with a decent-sized self-contained one-bedroom en-suite in a home with a decent backyard and instant access to nature. A yard with trees, grass, plants, maybe vegetables, and ideally, a hammock would be excellent for quiet reflection, reading, and vitamin D. I prefer living with just one other female or up to four people with an equal balance of men and women.
Why am I a good flatmate? I am a well-meaning, good-natured, and honest person with good intentions and a good laugh. My secret superpower is my ability to make people laugh, and I often bring laughter to a group and my friends. I was the class clown at school and loved to make others laugh. Others frequently remark I'm hilarious, but that's not for me to say. But yeah. I am. My four main passions are Music, writing, films, and travel. Oh, and cats. So five. I love cats.
However, the introvert is on the flip side of the born and semi-professional entertainer. At home, my general routine during weeknights is usually enjoying alone time and decompressing in the serene surroundings of my room. This is where I will do some random creative writing, watch a movie, and snuggle under the doona with my cats after dinner. I also enjoy long, relaxing baths in a clean bathtub somewhere in the house at least once a week.
I can cook, or so I'm told, though I'm not exceptionally gifted or obsessed. I certainly don't mind the odd shared meals or activities with flatmates. A good, mutually agreed-upon flick is cool. Or a good quality bottle of wine and a long-winded pseudo-philosophical discussion. Solving the world's problems interspersed with more wine. A wine and a whine, I call it. Perhaps even a wild night of Scrabble if the mood strikes. The occasional shared activity helps team building and enhances general cohesion in any household.
Other than that, I keep to myself mostly at home. I currently work as a social media manager and enjoy my space and time alone to recharge. I don't party much these days, and I don't ever bring it home with me.
If I do "party", it is usually outside my home, at a gig, movie, dinner, event, or whatever. I never bring random people back from the pub after a drunken bender, and I'm not looking for that kind of atmosphere from my flatmates.
I need my home to be a peaceful sanctuary at all times. Somewhere, I can be comfortable, let my hair down, and be myself whenever I'm there. On that note, I have two pet peeves. One is petty drama and high school-style gossiping about others, especially home residents. The other is right-wing politics, racism or othering.
I don't need to be best friends with my flatmates; I need open hearts, goodwill, kindness, and consideration. I actively practice mindful behaviour, try to be considerate of those around me, and am told I'm self-aware. I think my Mum said that.
I am always committed to respecting others' boundaries and attempting to understand their perspectives fully. Everyone has different boundaries and triggers. I am not responsible for their responses to my actions or words, but I am accountable to myself for my behaviour, good or bad. I am not an angel, but I am sincere and trustworthy.
I aim to be transparent with my flatmates about my feelings instead of silently sulking, ignoring the elephant in the room and bringing bad vibes into the home. That is another pet peeve of mine.
If an issue or disagreement arises, I will express myself fully measured and logically, either privately to the head of the household or in a house meeting mediation setting. I expect the same from others and will endeavour to listen objectively to their views or issues should they find fault. That is the only way to navigate conflict effectively.
Sharing space with flatmates or people in any context requires work, healthy and continuous communication, and sincerity. Clear communication and mindful behaviour are the keys.
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