$300/week•51 year old woman
I am a 51-year-old woman who recently separated from my partner of ten years. I have lived in the Inner West of Sydney for many years, but I am certainly looking for a change, a fresh start, some different energy, a different setting, new people, you name it. It's just time to move on to the next chapter.
Ideally, I am interested in a shared house with a decent-sized self-contained one-bedroom en-suite, a decent backyard, and instant access to nature— a yard with trees, grass, plants, and maybe vegetables—just a wish list. I am flexible about all of the above. I prefer living with just one other female or up to four people with an equal balance of men and women.
Why am I a good flatmate? I am a well-meaning, good-natured, and honest person with good intentions and a good laugh. My secret superpower is my ability to make people laugh, and I often bring laughter to a group and my friends.
My five main passions are music, writing, films, comedy, travel, and cats. Oh, and I love cats. So six. I love cats. I have two adorable senior house-trained domestic cats, and we are a package deal.
However, the introvert is on the flip side of the born and semi-professional entertainer. At home, my general routine during weeknights is usually enjoying alone time and decompressing in the serene surroundings of my room. This is where I will do some random creative writing, watch a movie, and snuggle under the doona with my cats after dinner. I also enjoy long, relaxing baths in a clean bathtub somewhere in the house once a week.
I can cook, or so I'm told, though I'm not exceptionally gifted or obsessed. I certainly don't mind the odd shared meals or activities with flatmates. A good, mutually agreed-upon flick is cool. Or a good quality bottle of wine and a long-winded pseudo-philosophical discussion. Solving the world's problems interspersed with more wine. A wine and a whine, I call it. The occasional shared activity helps team building and enhances general cohesion in any household.
Other than that, I keep to myself mostly at home. I currently work as a social media manager and enjoy my space and time alone to recharge. I don't party much these days, and I don't ever bring it home with me.
I usually socialise outside my home, at a gig, movie, dinner, event, or whatever. I never bring random people back from the pub after a drunken bender, and I'm not looking for that kind of atmosphere from my flatmates.
I don't need to be best friends with my flatmates; I need open hearts, goodwill, kindness, and consideration. I actively practice mindful behaviour and try to be considerate of those around me. I have often been told that I'm pretty self-aware. Of course, that is hard to self-assess.
I am always committed to respecting others' boundaries and attempting to understand their perspectives fully. Everyone has different boundaries and triggers. I am not responsible for their responses to my actions or words, but I am accountable to myself for my behaviour, good or bad. I am not an angel, but I am sincere and trustworthy.
On that note, I have three pet peeves. One is petty drama and high school-style gossiping about others, especially other residents. Another no-go is right-wing politics, racism, etc. I am left-wing in my politics, but I keep personally my views to myself generally unless I know someone well. Third is silently sulking around the house, ignoring the elephant in the room and bringing bad vibes into the home.
If an issue or disagreement arises, I will express my feelings proactively and diplomatically to the head of the household or in a meeting mediation setting. I expect the same from others and will endeavour to listen objectively to their views or issues should they find fault. That is the only way to navigate conflict effectively.
Sharing space with flatmates or people in any context requires work, healthy and continuous communication, and sincerity. Clear communication and mindful behaviour are the keys.
Ultimately, I need my home always to be a peaceful sanctuary. Somewhere, I can be comfortable, let my hair down, and be myself whenever I'm there. If this all sounds like a fit for your household, message me. I'm looking to move in around six weeks, but I can be flexible depending on the house and the price.
Available 10 June 2024
